It's been a while since I have written a blog post.
So here's a quick update as to what's been going on this year with me.
The start of this year I started a new job as a Trainee Nurse Practitioner. I'm really enjoying it so far. It's been a big challenge, particularly at the start but the staff have been class and I'm learning a lot. Definitely the best job I've had by far.
Kyle and I went to Scotland at the start of the year for his birthday and went to the Scotch Whiskey Experience for a master class. It was brilliant. I'm definitely converted to a whiskey fan now. Which I couldn't have imagined a year ago haha!
We had a great time and enjoyed doing our own thing and exploring the old part of Edinburgh.
Then we went to Zante a Greek island. We had a good time and made friends with an Albanian barman. To be honest it was nice to get away and spend some time alone together just chilling so we didn't go for the whole tourist thing. We explored around different parts of Zante but didn't go for the party life or anything.
We popped home a couple of times this year but didn't go alot as we were saving for a house and couldn't afford to be flying back and forth to northern Ireland every month or two.
Our wee nephew turned one in September so we went home for his birthday. And also to tell our families that we are expecting our own addition to the family next Spring. We are having a baby.
I can't quite believe it but it's slowly setting in. We are very excited.
This next few weeks will be interesting as we've secured a house to buy. So all being well in the next month or so we will be in the process of moving house. We most certainly don't do things in halves do we lol!
Kyle and I also celebrated 2 years being married last weekend. I can't quite believe it's been 2 years. It feels like forever but also like yesterday at the same time.
The last 2 years I've learned so much and have really enjoyed married life.
We've got a lot to look forward to particularly next year.
So yeah, life has been pretty busy, travelling, working, visiting family, anniversary and a baby on the way.
The human body is amazing in so many different ways and for so many different reasons.
One of the things I want to talk about is psychological discipline and and the ability for the body to develop and learn new skills.
I haven't always been flexible and even at that, I have a long way to go.
But I have recently gotten my splits because of my dedication and discipline to stretching and practicing yoga.
Its hard work. But its doable. I've been practicing for 2 years nearly and I've finally started to get the splits .
the body grows in so many different ways and I think it is so awesome that it can do that. Even as an adult.
My alignment needs some work still, and I can only hold it for 5 seconds. But touch down has been accomplished. Im willing to give it more time and practice in order to become better at it.
Not only in the splits practice. I am so amazed with how with practice, the body can better itself.
obviously within reason. Injury can also happen so easily too. But even that said, progress is within reach, perhaps in a different way, who knows. It just amazes me the potential.
My pole dance for example. I've come leaps and bounds in my pole dance practice. My strength and flexibility is astounding now.
I hear alot of people say "I wish/have always wanted to be able to do xyz" and they then hear what effort is involved and decide not to bother. Thats perfectly fine. What isn't fine though, is continuing to complain about how you wish you could do said thing. It's not cool because it shows that you want to get things without any effort, work or discipline. It's a sad thing to see. If you really want something, set realistic goals to get to it or as close to it as physically possible for you.
I've pretty much (except for 2 months) renting houses since I was 24, not long after I felt stable enough in my first proper full time post as a Nurse.
I have to say I've really enjoyed it so far.
Not without difficulties of course as with anything. But it has given me a lot of experiences that I want to share here. I hear a lot of people discuss the disadvantages of renting a house. But I'm here to discuss the positives whilst incorporating things I've learned along the way.
Advantages of Renting Property
1) You learn a lot about being an adult
I was always told as a kid and a teenager growing up "make the most of having your washing done for you etc". Now that said, I am grateful for everything my mum ever did for me to make sure I didn't have to see without. I know there are a lot of people growing up in poverty and maybe don't have the luxury of having a caregiver sort out domestic chores for them. My mum did all the washing, cleaning and cooking in the house. I'm glad she provided this for me so I didn't have to learn from an extremely early age. But I feel that I've always been quite independent in that I like learning how to look after myself.
I've had to learn how to juggle working, paying bills, how these bills work, cleaning, cooking and washing by myself. No bringing home bags of washing for mum to sort out any more.
This allowed me to learn how to not only task manage, but time manage and problem solve.
2) Learn new skills
This also is encompassed in the previous point, I had to learn how to do a lot of stuff myself domestically, but I also needed some basic DIY skills in order to keep the house afloat.
I'm no Bob the Builder, but I have built a bed myself (had to ask my dad for a little help at the end as Argos had made a hole in one of the panels face the wrong way and I couldn't get the leg of the bed screwed in, so my Dad saved the day with his tool box and set to work drilling a hole in the correct place for me.
I've had to build a chest of drawers, fix light bulbs, toilet roll holders and toilet buttons alike.
Anything I can't do, I ask the landlord/lady. Or make the most of someone's abilities. For instance; my first house I rented in Belfast, even with a chair I couldn't reach the fire alarm to change the battery. So one day when the gas man came to service the boiler. (steady on there, not "my boiler" I mean a literal gas boiler, you nasty piece of filth haha!)
Since he was a tall chap I asked him if he'd mind changing the battery for me, which he gladly obliged, after having a laugh at my height or there lack of.
No-one expects you to be able to do everything yourself. You might be an independent so and so who don't need no man but we can't be a jack of all trades in everything in life.
That's why we have tradesman or relatives who are a dab hand at DIY stuff.
3) Renting let me find out what I like and don't like
You have to view houses before you put a deposit down, whether it's buying or renting. Sometimes viewing houses can be like using Tinder. There are houses advertised that look absolutely like they might be the one. Then when you go on that date, you find out that there is a lot of baggage with it that just doesn't sit right with you.
However, there are some things that you won't foresee until you are in the thick of it.
For instance when I moved into my house in Belfast, the walls you could hear the neighbours telly blasting. Now you couldn't hear everything but it was a bit frustrating at times.
My house was also smack bang in the middle of where the 12th July parades marched through (if you aren't familiar, google it) Which played havoc one day as I was working all over the 12th holiday and couldn't get home for 3 hours whilst the bands played... Not good when you need a wee.
You learn other things to take into consideration that meet your criteria. You mightn't have much of a criteria before you move out, but trust me by the end of your tenancy you will.
Some examples of mine would be off street parking for 2 cars (makes your car insurance a little cheaper and it's a little safer), a garden, not paper thin walls, safe neighbourhood, and most recently a decent takeaway. Where we live there is sweet FA near us (it's also good because it means we have to cook everything meaning it's healthier but still, sometimes a girl needs a decent Chinese takeaway ya know?) For you that might look different depending on whether or not you have a family, what kind of job you have etc.
4) You may learn some vital skills such as conflict management skills
Whether it's with a nasty neighbour, difficult landlord, or horrible estate agents. You learn important tricks in how to handle situations and handle yourself.
I've had a couple of tricky situations particularly in our current house where me and Kyle have both had to face some difficult people together and separately in some very bizarre situations. Whilst I still have a lot of learning to do yet, I've come a long way in asserting myself and fighting my corner where I need to.
There are some untrustworthy people out there. Whether you like it or not you will be naive at first. But you can help yourself by taking tips from family and friends who've been there done that.
Don't trust anyone at face value when it comes to properties, they might be friendly to your face but when shit hits the fan you can rest assured they will try to pin the blame on you. Not always the case but I am under the impression that someone can be guilty until proven innocent when it comes to business.
For instance, your landlord/estate agent might be the sweetest chocolate in Thornton's when it comes to getting you to sign the papers and take the tenancy. But when you move out rest assured the company will go through the house with a fine tooth comb and try to take money out of your security deposit for things that were maybe there before you moved in. Unless you have proof, they can do what they please. You'll be left aghast because you and Becky were like BFF's 2 years ago for 2 weeks.
Now, don't slate me if you are a sales rep or estate agent. I get it, your job is difficult and commission based, you have to be a people person and a good sale pitch starts with a smile. Nothing wrong with it; it's the system I sometimes have a problem with. Don't take it so personal.
5) Keep your records straight and up to date
View anything to do with houses as purely business. Be pleasant of course that goes without saying. But don't assume everyone is on the same page. When you are given an itinerary of the property, even the T&C's, go through it so thoroughly that you consider becoming a lawyer. Make your own itinerary, take photographs of EVERYTHING wrong with the place, even things that might seem insignificant. Trust me, it will work in your favour if you chose to move out to another place or buy a property, you will have clear time stamped evidence to support your case when the security deposit issues comes into question.
This was a big one for us last year, when we moved out of our old flat, our old landlord tried to pull a fast one by saying that we didn't get the carpets cleaned and that the place was a mess when we left. Thankfully we employed someone to clean the carpets with an invoice; And even to the Landlords own admission, the estate agents hired an independent inspector who reported back that the house was of an professionally clean standard. I still can't get over the cheek of the landlord thinking we were going to cough up an extra couple of hundred for them to "clean it".
So keep good records of everything. Be on top of it, because guaranteed someone else will and it might not work in your favour.
This can be a disadvantage if you aren't careful and realistic
Obviously a lot of people will say stay with your parents rent free for as long as you can to allow yourself to save money. Whilst there is a lot of truth in this, this isn't always everyone's reality. Not everyone has that luxury for their own personal and individual reasons.
So when you are renting, cross reference your potential bills and rent with your income. Be realistic with what you can afford and what you can put away for savings.
This can vary depending on your circumstances and I am not blindsided by this.
I would recommend the book "Get your Shit Together" By Sarah Knight. Commical and hard hitting with them facts about procrastination, even touches on saving money etc.
Set realistic goals for savings, you might not be able to put a deposit down on a house in 1 years time. So be realistic with your targets. For instance you might be working part time as at a garden centre on maybe £7.50/hr. There's a few questions to ask yourself
1) Can you pick up extra shifts/extra work elsewhere?
2) If so its this feasible i.e. family commitments
3) are you on benefits? perhaps consider advice from a company such as this
There's plenty of advice services that offer advice and help
4) Consider all your earnings, look at price ranges online of houses for rent.
5) Sit down and calculate how much you could realistically put aside per day, per week, per month or whatever way you get paid.
Remember you got this, you can do this. Reach out for help if you need it from the right people. If you are struggling with debt, pay your debts off first.
Once you have them paid off, you'll know what you can live without money wise. For instance, if you're paying off credit cards say £30 a week; once you've eventually paid off your credit card debt, you'll have made adjustments to living without that £30 a week and can start putting that into a savings account. That's just one example, it might be less or more for you. However if you seek out help and advice from services such as:
Money Advice Service, you will be able to taylor your own
Thanks for coming to my TED talk haha! So these are my advantages of having rented before I buy a house.
Im playing catch up so heres day 10 of the blog challenge set out by the lovely Kathryn from @the_mother_hen
Todays topic is what I wore today... Well...
Just for shits and giggles I'm gonna write this like I'm a proper fancy fashion blogger #richbitch
I have worn 3 outfits today.
3 you say?? Yes 3, I say. I'm just that classy.
And today you've got the privilege of hearing all about each item I wore.
Here's what I wore to work today from 07:30-15:30
This "beautiful" dark blue matching tunic and trousers were gifted to me by the National Health Service. #SoInThisSeason. It resembles that of a sack of spuds and ironically make me appear skinnier than I actually am. Super comfortable, much like wearing pajamas to work only obviously not cause that would be super lazy 🤔
Accessories again courtesy of the National Health Service that includes a stunning yellow broach customised just for me with my first name on it.
The last accessory is a fabulous fob watch that a member of the styling team at the one and only Argos hand picked out for me. (A.k.a. she handed me my order over the counter whilst chatting to someone on her headset) beautiful floral design and quite clearly showing off my expensive taste (*cough* £5)
After work, I headed home, had a shower and changed into my designer lounge wear.
A beige long sleeve shirt from none other than New Look. With a little eagle logo that looks suspiciously like Hollister but I can assure you ... It isn't.
And navy sweat pants with a white and green stripe down the lateral side of the leg.
(I forgot to take a photo so I will throw one here of me wearing the shirt before on another occasion)
And finally I went to my first proper pole class in ages tonight. I wore a short crop top from Berskha (a Spanish brand) and a pair of pink nude shorts that says some bollocks on the side of the hip in black and white. They're cute so I don't really care in all honesty what it says
So there you have it... All the outfits I wore today and why.
\nIt didn't take me long to figure this one out.
\nI live in England but am originally from Northern Ireland.
\nI miss the people in that the way they speak, they understand me and I understand them. I'm pretty lucky where I live now in that I don't have to repeat myself all that often. Everyone is lovely and that reminds me of home in a lot of ways.
\nBut one thing I just miss more than anything is potato bread, often called tattie bread. Or as I recently discovered after a class weekend in Edinburgh is that they call it a tattie scone (pronounced tatty).
\nTattie bread is a delicacy. Some shops still sell it but some of it is crap not gonna lie.
\nI found a recipie for it about a year ago and gave it a go. It's gonna take a little practice mind you. But the recipie is pretty decent.
\nBasically it's mashed potato, flour, roll it out with a rolling pin, cut into triangles. (I mean, it's the only decent way to eat it) and fry it low to medium head 3 mins each side roughly or until golden brown.
\nIf done right, it tastes so soft and slightly crunchy on the outside. It is amazing with a fry, along with soda bread... Ohhhh soda bread, it's absolutely gorgeous too
\nIn fact all bread from Ireland in general I really miss: the scones, Veda bread, wheaten bread mmm!!!
\nBread is my one crutch in life. It's pretty much the reason I end up putting weight back on.
\nI'm certain that in a previous life I was a baker.
I can remember being a little tot and going shopping with my mum and sister in Bow Street Mall in Lisburn, Northern Ireland.
There used to be a crèche upstairs where the food court now is. A really class soft play area for kids to play in.
I remember there was even lots of soft play bricks and blocks. My sister and I made friends with another couple of little boys and we all decided to build a house together. I thought we did a good job but to be honest we were pretty young so it probably looked like shite haha!
I feel like this was such a great idea! If I remember correctly I think that there were child minders on site to look after the kids. Meaning the mums could go off and do their shopping knowing their kids were alright.
It was fun and I remember being gutted when they closed down the crèche
I used to love playing imaginary games as a kid. Pretending to be all sorts, from a Pokémon trainer to a skateboarder to a baby sitter to cops and robbers, cowboys, robin hood, and the list goes on. It was amazing to pretend to be all these things.
I used to love playing other games too, I liked playing football, playing spy's, gymnastics. So it feels natural that my earliest memory revolved around playing and pretending
Just a little warning, this is a long post haha! In all honesty it has taken me 3-4 days to write this as this is a subject that I have mixed feelings about in relation to social media. Its supposed to be 5 problems with social media but I've only done 3. Because there are so many rabbit holes to jump into. This post is already long enough as it is. Some of it can be seen as duplication so I've limited myself to 3 points.
Nevertheless, don't let the length put you off. Its an interesting read. I've tried to be fair where possible to both sides of the argument. Feel free to offer constructive criticism where you can.
Social media is great because it allows us to connect with others, see what they're up to. We can learn so much through social media too.
That said, nothing in life is 100% perfect. So here is my 2 cents for what it's worth as written by a 26 year old with some life experience. I don't like to make uninformed decisions so I will back up what I say with evidence in the form of studies. All studies I use will be in the western part of the world. Most of them have been American studies. So just to point that out for context.
I enjoy using some platforms more than others. However, I can appreciate that as a young person there is a desire to have everything that your friends all have and can therefore use all platforms available to them. The fear of missing out can make you think you're being isolated.
As an introduction to the topic, I thought this statistic from the "Common Sense, Census" was very poignant.
"On any given day fully one in five 8- to 12-year-olds in this country is using more than six hours of screen media, and nearly as many teens (18 percent) are using more than 10 hours of screen media."
1) Vital Skills and Focus can be affected negatively
According to a study carried out by Ophir et al (2009) "Heavy Media Multitaskers (i.e. a person's consumption of more than one item or stream of content at the same time) have greater difficulty filtering out irrelevant stimuli from their environment (as seen in the filter task and AX-CPT with distractors), they are less likely to ignore irrelevant representations in memory (two- and three-back tasks), and they are less effective in suppressing the activation of irrelevant task sets (task-switching). This last result is particularly striking given the central role attributed to task-switching in multitasking."
So it's safe to say that flicking between instagram, facebook, snapchat, youtube, etc constantly can impact your ability to filter through nonsense and prioritise things in general.
These are vital skills for surviving adulthood and skills that are versatile and needed in most jobs. The ability to focus and also prioritise tasks.
The Common Sense, Census Study (linked above) says that many teens multitask with media while doing their homework, and most think this has no effect on the quality of their work. That said, there are so many different kinds of media that people can interact with. TV, spotify, youtube etc. So I can see that some people perfer to have background music or noise going on in the background while they concentrate on their studies or work whatever they are doing. Everyone learns and works differently. However, I think that most of us can agree that if you are texting, scrolling on instagram/facebook or sending snap chats. You're probably not doing your work. Therefore you spend longer procrastinating, then cramming to get everything done before bed. This slowly pushes bed time a little later which can in turn affect your sleep and performance the next day. So it would be a fair assumption to suggest that perhaps anything that takes your eyes off what you're meant to be doing is probably more of a distraction than anything else.
Shaw and Grant (2004) argue that social skills can be enhanced using social media. Stating that social media can have a positive effect on how people socialise, and reduce loneliness
Whilst this is true, surely this depends on how people utilise social media. If they use it and never go out to interact with people in the real world then surely this will have a detrimental effect on developing substantial social skills necessary to function as a contributing member of society.
Barker, (2009) suggests in her study that there are some people who don't feel overly confident in physical interactions or feel secure in their everyday relationships and therefore turn to social networking sites such as Facebook etc in order to interact Essentially on their own terms and satisfy that need for companionship.
With that said, is this a healthy way of learning how to interact? I think personally yes and no. Yes, because the internet has a vast array of people from all kinds of backgrounds that you can interact with. Social interaction can help with building self confidence (as this study also shows). Mostly females seem to enjoy the social interaction of social media for this reason. However I also say no because social interaction on social media is different to interaction that is face to face and requires faster responses and tact. You also don't get to "leave someone on read" if someone asks you a difficult question etc. In real life.
That requires experience which requires prescribe. If you aren't practicing then you don't get experience.
2. Poor Outcomes of Mental Health
It's no secret that there is a correlation between poor mental health and heavy use of social media. The Common Sense, Consensus statistic used at rhe start of this post says: "On any given day fully one in five 8- to 12-year-olds in this country is using more than six hours of screen media, and nearly as many teens (18 percent) are using more than 10 hours of screen media."
Whilst other infographics and articles written by this platform suggest that social media actually has a very beneficial outcome for users. Surely spending this much time being consumed by a variety of platforms, surrounding yourself with users who push their agendas and #ads and sponsored content can cause even the best of us to question our lives. "How come I don't have a life like that?", "What are they doing differently to me that they get a beautiful house, partner, car etc?"
Joe Rogan did a podcast with a guy called Jonathan Haidt (Social Psychologist) who discusses that actually there is a high correlation between middle school aged females high use of social media at a young age a d self harm. Definitely an interesting podcast! (it'll be linked below for your listening pleasure)
People share their best side. No-one is going to try and share their worst days. No body is going to share about their alcohol problem, or their poor school grades, relationships falling apart. (At least not during the dark times. Only after the fact when they've "risen from the ashes".)
And those that do overshare their struggles; we judge by saying either to them or to ourselves "you're putting your dirty washing out for everyone to see"
There has to be a balance. We as a society it seems, have raised the expectation bar up so high that we can't see social media influencers as anything else but perfection. And so when a mistake is made we feel so invested like we are entitled to know every detail of someone's life who at the end of the day is only human.
It can really impact influencers when they get hung, drawn and quartered as a result of their own personal scandals. It can affect the invested followers in making them question a lot of things. And yet if we don't see these influencers as only human, followers can feel pressured, either from themselves or from other followers and users that this is the way life is supposed to look. Why don't you have it so good?
Causing a downward spiral of feeling rotten in your own circumstances and just generally sub par.
However, playing devils advocate here. In relation to chronic long term health conditions, one study I read (Merolli et al, 2012) suggests that such people being on social media (whilst research into the subject is still in its early stages) has a good impact and empowers individuals by helping them to understand and interact with people in similar situations to themselves.
So arguably there are points for both side of whether or not social media can be a good and bad thing for mental health. Personally I feel that there can be more negatives in relation to mental health than good.
3) Infants Motor Skills are affected
I've heard stories of parents saying that their toddlers try to swipe the next page of a magazine and then wonder why the screen won't change. I've spoken to a health visitor whose said that she's noticed toddlers fine motor skills (the ability to pinch and pick up small items) is greatly affected by over use of tablets and so on.
Webster and Staiano in their study talk about excessive screen time and the implications for kids these days.
"Higher amounts of screen-time might deter children from the opportunity to engage in Physical Activity experiences;" They then go on to say that in this particular study no relationship was found between the amount of screen-time in which children engaged and any intensity or amount of Physical Activity.
Interestingly and yet also unsurprisingly. Children's motor skills were positively related to Vigorous Physical Activity but inversely related to screen-time. Further inquiry into the implications of high exposure to screen-time in young children is needed in order to explore other areas of screen time
Whilst it's not directly talking about social media. Most kids are using YouTube which is a form of social media.
The Children and Parents: Media Use and Attitude Report (2017) (it wont let me link it here as it is a PDF but easily google-able) states that at the ages 3-4, statistically, 41% of this age group of kids will be watching TV on a tablet.
I've watched a lot of kids watching stuff on tablets a d they are not only glued to it but they have the screen inches away from their faces. Which surely cannot be good for them!
By the age of 8-11, 23% of these kids will have their own social media profile.
A positive thing to take away from this document however is that parents and kids alike are talking about internet safety. 17% of kids and teens have said they've seen something they've been worried about but have also taken action against. So this is promising to see.
So there you have it. My 2 cents for what it's worth.
I have backed up everything I've said with research. I hope you found it useful. Give yourself a pat on the back if you stuck it out this far! Well done you!
I have a few books that I love. So again I'm gonna cheat on this one again because I like them for different reasons.
My favourite genre of books has to be crime and thriller. Hate watching thrillers... Love reading them!
Favourite author has to be John Grisham. Generally, when asked the question of my favourite book, I'd say hands down John Grisham. But to be fair I haven't read one of his books for a while so I thought I'd try and broaden my horizon to all the books I can remember ever reading that really stand out in my mind.
It has been a while from I've been consumed by a book. Life has just gotten in the way and I haven't made reading a priority for me.
It is something I really want to get back into soon.
I personally find fictional books super easy to read. I also love to read some self help books and I love back in the day nursing books. I absolutely detest without a shadow of doubt reading romance novels. So I'm afraid I won't be talking about any romance novels any time soon on here.
So here's my favourites thus far:
I love Sarah Knight "The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck" I found it a great stepping stone in learning to say no, how to prioritise and think about what I actually
want in life. It also made me aware of the amount of times I agree to stuff I don't want to do.
I highly recommend this book to anyone out there that is highly agreeable like myself. Really easy to read, full of swear words so if you aren't this way inclined, either cover your eyes or grin and bare it... Or just don't read it at all lol! But you'd be missing out.
It has definitely created a turning point in my life to allow me to see that there is more to life than pleasing others and sacrificing my own time in order to feel a sense of satisfaction through obligation etc.
She categorises things so beautifully and it is very much an interactive book where you make notes of what you do give a f*ck about and things that you don't and work your way through them to re-prioritise your life.
This book was written in 1951 by John Wyndham. But don't let that put you off reading it. It's so well written and to read you wouldn't think that it was at all written in the 1950's.
My father in law actually recommended this to my husband who recommended it to me.
Super class thriller, you could actually see some of these events actually happening in an apocalyptic scenario in the sense of how people behave etc. John apparently did a lot of background research on this so I've heard in order to make the book feel real.
Really easy to read and enjoyable, kept me on the edge of my seat for sure. Not a heavy book at all and honestly just such a good read. I'd love to read it again in all honesty.
I am pretty confident in myself I have to say, so I suppose that the one positive thing I can say about my personal experience with this book is that I realised I am pretty confident when I read it.
I couldn't really relate to some of the exercises that Sarah asks the reader to do as to me they just felt like second nature for me personally.
That's not to say that it isn't a good book entirely. I just don't think now upon hind sight that this was the book for me. Definitely give it a read if you are interested in learning how to accept yourself and are quite doubtful of yourself as a person. want in life. It also made me aware of the amount of times I agree to stuff I don't want to do.
So there you have it, 2 of my favourite books that I loved so much and one that isn't my first pick.
I'm learning that no-one is perfect, and to admire traits of people instead of admiring everything to do with that person.
I admire so many different people for different reasons. So I guess I'm cheating as I'm gonna put forward my 2 favourites.
Fitness goals and a goal orientated woman I look up to is Gal Gadot. She is my *Wonder* Woman Crush Wednesday all day, every day of the week.
The woman is an amazing actress, insanely fit, has served in Israeli Army during her time on earth, and won Miss Israel when she was only 18. What's not to love about her.
She has goals in mind, keeps them at the forefront of her mind and then takes the most reasonable steps and pushes herself in order to get where she wants to go. She's very driven and that's what I love about her.
My morning routine varies depending on whether or not I'm working early or late.
I'll go through a typical morning routine of when I am working early first then what I do on my days off/working late. When I say it varies, I just mean it varies in which time I actually wake up at. If I have to be in work for 07:30 I get up at 06:15, if I don't have to be in work until 14:15 then I sleep a bit longer and wake up between 08:30 and 10:00
First things first, regardless of working early, late, or day off; I turn my alarm off, count to five then get out of bed.
The reason I do this is because I used to be a "10 alarms + the snooze button is my friend" kinda gal. But a couple of months ago I was feeling pretty crappy especially in the morning time. So I did some research on sleep and how to make yourself a morning person.
Most stuff I read and watched was a load of horse shite in my personal opinion. some Youtubers being all "hey guys this is how I get ready in the mornings" and it's like a 30 min video on a five hour morning routine that just isn't realistic. Some of these crazy mofo's get up literally at the crack arse of dawn just to start their day for no reason at all. They aren't going to a single place of work for 04:30! Eating their wheat grass smoothies and chugging down green tea, meditating for 60 mins and doing yoga for 2 more XD... I digress.
Anyways, I read a study on how hitting snooze actually reduces the quality of sleep that you have and therefore makes you more tired and less useful during the day. Here's a video that goes into it if you're interested in learning about it.
This completely changed my perspective on sleep. I used to always cherish those extra 10 mins in bed. But every morning I'd wake up feeling "extra sprinkle of shitty mood"
So I gave it a try, and although I'm still not exactly chipper as soon as I wake up, I'm a helluva lot better than I was.
So definitely look into it and give it a try if you're at your wits end of feeling pure shite like I was.
So now that I have woken up, I get myself out of bed and have go for a wee... (TMI? don't care XD)
Then I go and meditate for 20 mins. This is my "me" time before the chaos of the day unfolds. It allows me to be present with myself and deal with any niggling thoughts before I take on the baggage of this day that is about to occur.
I've found it really beneficial to my mood in how I start the day.
I gather all my uniform bits and put them on the radiator including a bra. definitely a game changer. I dunno about you but putting a freezing cold bra on first thing in the morning isn't my idea of a good time at all.
While that's cooking, I make myself a smoothie. I used to hate making smoothies before because I found using fresh fruit was just so temperamental sometimes... Frozen fruit is now my new bff. You're welcome!
So I drink that, I make a cuppa coffee and then I take a little supplement called L Theanine, it's a protein that is meant to help improve focus, reduce anxiety and improve sleep and studies have shown that it works best with caffeine, hence the coffee.
If I haven't properly woken up by this stage, I contemplate my life choices of choosing a job that requires me to get up so early and question as to whether or not I really need this job. Then I decide that I do indeed need it and also like my job (just not mornings). So I then convince myself to get dressed.
I'm quite lucky in that my uniform is just like wearing pajamas to work each day. Quite comfortable, lots of pockets. Only complaint is that it isn't exactly figure flattering (much to the dismay of most men around the world who seem to think that being a nurse is sexy. Sorry honey bun, but having a quicky with someone in a real nurses uniform, covered in all sorts of bodily fluid, is in probably... no... undoubtably extremely unhygienic.) Moving swiftly on.
I then put my hair up, I alternate between a braid, a bun, a high pony tail and a low ish pony tail with a bit of a bang thing going on at the front.
For my makeup, I generally don't like to wear make up to work, just a personal thing. I am do quite a bit of moving around and end up just wiping most of it off my face.
I do however like to have my mascara on (end of this month though, the false lashes are making a comeback!) and draw over my eyebrows with a pencil.
That's about it! I head out the door and make my way into work.
That is my exciting morning routine. No bullshit, just enough to get me awake and ready to face the day.
I am a 25 year old nurse, who is trying to find herself. This blog will contain epiphanies I have, my yoga progress and other such things. Enjoy. :)