I can remember being a little tot and going shopping with my mum and sister in Bow Street Mall in Lisburn, Northern Ireland.
There used to be a crèche upstairs where the food court now is. A really class soft play area for kids to play in.
I remember there was even lots of soft play bricks and blocks. My sister and I made friends with another couple of little boys and we all decided to build a house together. I thought we did a good job but to be honest we were pretty young so it probably looked like shite haha!
I feel like this was such a great idea! If I remember correctly I think that there were child minders on site to look after the kids. Meaning the mums could go off and do their shopping knowing their kids were alright.
It was fun and I remember being gutted when they closed down the crèche
I used to love playing imaginary games as a kid. Pretending to be all sorts, from a Pokémon trainer to a skateboarder to a baby sitter to cops and robbers, cowboys, robin hood, and the list goes on. It was amazing to pretend to be all these things.
I used to love playing other games too, I liked playing football, playing spy's, gymnastics. So it feels natural that my earliest memory revolved around playing and pretending
Just a little warning, this is a long post haha! In all honesty it has taken me 3-4 days to write this as this is a subject that I have mixed feelings about in relation to social media. Its supposed to be 5 problems with social media but I've only done 3. Because there are so many rabbit holes to jump into. This post is already long enough as it is. Some of it can be seen as duplication so I've limited myself to 3 points.
Nevertheless, don't let the length put you off. Its an interesting read. I've tried to be fair where possible to both sides of the argument. Feel free to offer constructive criticism where you can.
Social media is great because it allows us to connect with others, see what they're up to. We can learn so much through social media too.
That said, nothing in life is 100% perfect. So here is my 2 cents for what it's worth as written by a 26 year old with some life experience. I don't like to make uninformed decisions so I will back up what I say with evidence in the form of studies. All studies I use will be in the western part of the world. Most of them have been American studies. So just to point that out for context.
I enjoy using some platforms more than others. However, I can appreciate that as a young person there is a desire to have everything that your friends all have and can therefore use all platforms available to them. The fear of missing out can make you think you're being isolated.
As an introduction to the topic, I thought this statistic from the "Common Sense, Census" was very poignant.
"On any given day fully one in five 8- to 12-year-olds in this country is using more than six hours of screen media, and nearly as many teens (18 percent) are using more than 10 hours of screen media."
1) Vital Skills and Focus can be affected negatively
According to a study carried out by Ophir et al (2009) "Heavy Media Multitaskers (i.e. a person's consumption of more than one item or stream of content at the same time) have greater difficulty filtering out irrelevant stimuli from their environment (as seen in the filter task and AX-CPT with distractors), they are less likely to ignore irrelevant representations in memory (two- and three-back tasks), and they are less effective in suppressing the activation of irrelevant task sets (task-switching). This last result is particularly striking given the central role attributed to task-switching in multitasking."
So it's safe to say that flicking between instagram, facebook, snapchat, youtube, etc constantly can impact your ability to filter through nonsense and prioritise things in general.
These are vital skills for surviving adulthood and skills that are versatile and needed in most jobs. The ability to focus and also prioritise tasks.
The Common Sense, Census Study (linked above) says that many teens multitask with media while doing their homework, and most think this has no effect on the quality of their work. That said, there are so many different kinds of media that people can interact with. TV, spotify, youtube etc. So I can see that some people perfer to have background music or noise going on in the background while they concentrate on their studies or work whatever they are doing. Everyone learns and works differently. However, I think that most of us can agree that if you are texting, scrolling on instagram/facebook or sending snap chats. You're probably not doing your work. Therefore you spend longer procrastinating, then cramming to get everything done before bed. This slowly pushes bed time a little later which can in turn affect your sleep and performance the next day. So it would be a fair assumption to suggest that perhaps anything that takes your eyes off what you're meant to be doing is probably more of a distraction than anything else.
Shaw and Grant (2004) argue that social skills can be enhanced using social media. Stating that social media can have a positive effect on how people socialise, and reduce loneliness
Whilst this is true, surely this depends on how people utilise social media. If they use it and never go out to interact with people in the real world then surely this will have a detrimental effect on developing substantial social skills necessary to function as a contributing member of society.
Barker, (2009) suggests in her study that there are some people who don't feel overly confident in physical interactions or feel secure in their everyday relationships and therefore turn to social networking sites such as Facebook etc in order to interact Essentially on their own terms and satisfy that need for companionship.
With that said, is this a healthy way of learning how to interact? I think personally yes and no. Yes, because the internet has a vast array of people from all kinds of backgrounds that you can interact with. Social interaction can help with building self confidence (as this study also shows). Mostly females seem to enjoy the social interaction of social media for this reason. However I also say no because social interaction on social media is different to interaction that is face to face and requires faster responses and tact. You also don't get to "leave someone on read" if someone asks you a difficult question etc. In real life.
That requires experience which requires prescribe. If you aren't practicing then you don't get experience.
2. Poor Outcomes of Mental Health
It's no secret that there is a correlation between poor mental health and heavy use of social media. The Common Sense, Consensus statistic used at rhe start of this post says: "On any given day fully one in five 8- to 12-year-olds in this country is using more than six hours of screen media, and nearly as many teens (18 percent) are using more than 10 hours of screen media."
Whilst other infographics and articles written by this platform suggest that social media actually has a very beneficial outcome for users. Surely spending this much time being consumed by a variety of platforms, surrounding yourself with users who push their agendas and #ads and sponsored content can cause even the best of us to question our lives. "How come I don't have a life like that?", "What are they doing differently to me that they get a beautiful house, partner, car etc?"
Joe Rogan did a podcast with a guy called Jonathan Haidt (Social Psychologist) who discusses that actually there is a high correlation between middle school aged females high use of social media at a young age a d self harm. Definitely an interesting podcast! (it'll be linked below for your listening pleasure)
People share their best side. No-one is going to try and share their worst days. No body is going to share about their alcohol problem, or their poor school grades, relationships falling apart. (At least not during the dark times. Only after the fact when they've "risen from the ashes".)
And those that do overshare their struggles; we judge by saying either to them or to ourselves "you're putting your dirty washing out for everyone to see"
There has to be a balance. We as a society it seems, have raised the expectation bar up so high that we can't see social media influencers as anything else but perfection. And so when a mistake is made we feel so invested like we are entitled to know every detail of someone's life who at the end of the day is only human.
It can really impact influencers when they get hung, drawn and quartered as a result of their own personal scandals. It can affect the invested followers in making them question a lot of things. And yet if we don't see these influencers as only human, followers can feel pressured, either from themselves or from other followers and users that this is the way life is supposed to look. Why don't you have it so good?
Causing a downward spiral of feeling rotten in your own circumstances and just generally sub par.
However, playing devils advocate here. In relation to chronic long term health conditions, one study I read (Merolli et al, 2012) suggests that such people being on social media (whilst research into the subject is still in its early stages) has a good impact and empowers individuals by helping them to understand and interact with people in similar situations to themselves.
So arguably there are points for both side of whether or not social media can be a good and bad thing for mental health. Personally I feel that there can be more negatives in relation to mental health than good.
3) Infants Motor Skills are affected
I've heard stories of parents saying that their toddlers try to swipe the next page of a magazine and then wonder why the screen won't change. I've spoken to a health visitor whose said that she's noticed toddlers fine motor skills (the ability to pinch and pick up small items) is greatly affected by over use of tablets and so on.
Webster and Staiano in their study talk about excessive screen time and the implications for kids these days.
"Higher amounts of screen-time might deter children from the opportunity to engage in Physical Activity experiences;" They then go on to say that in this particular study no relationship was found between the amount of screen-time in which children engaged and any intensity or amount of Physical Activity.
Interestingly and yet also unsurprisingly. Children's motor skills were positively related to Vigorous Physical Activity but inversely related to screen-time. Further inquiry into the implications of high exposure to screen-time in young children is needed in order to explore other areas of screen time
Whilst it's not directly talking about social media. Most kids are using YouTube which is a form of social media.
The Children and Parents: Media Use and Attitude Report (2017) (it wont let me link it here as it is a PDF but easily google-able) states that at the ages 3-4, statistically, 41% of this age group of kids will be watching TV on a tablet.
I've watched a lot of kids watching stuff on tablets a d they are not only glued to it but they have the screen inches away from their faces. Which surely cannot be good for them!
By the age of 8-11, 23% of these kids will have their own social media profile.
A positive thing to take away from this document however is that parents and kids alike are talking about internet safety. 17% of kids and teens have said they've seen something they've been worried about but have also taken action against. So this is promising to see.
So there you have it. My 2 cents for what it's worth.
I have backed up everything I've said with research. I hope you found it useful. Give yourself a pat on the back if you stuck it out this far! Well done you!
I have a few books that I love. So again I'm gonna cheat on this one again because I like them for different reasons.
My favourite genre of books has to be crime and thriller. Hate watching thrillers... Love reading them!
Favourite author has to be John Grisham. Generally, when asked the question of my favourite book, I'd say hands down John Grisham. But to be fair I haven't read one of his books for a while so I thought I'd try and broaden my horizon to all the books I can remember ever reading that really stand out in my mind.
It has been a while from I've been consumed by a book. Life has just gotten in the way and I haven't made reading a priority for me.
It is something I really want to get back into soon.
I personally find fictional books super easy to read. I also love to read some self help books and I love back in the day nursing books. I absolutely detest without a shadow of doubt reading romance novels. So I'm afraid I won't be talking about any romance novels any time soon on here.
So here's my favourites thus far:
I love Sarah Knight "The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck" I found it a great stepping stone in learning to say no, how to prioritise and think about what I actually
want in life. It also made me aware of the amount of times I agree to stuff I don't want to do.
I highly recommend this book to anyone out there that is highly agreeable like myself. Really easy to read, full of swear words so if you aren't this way inclined, either cover your eyes or grin and bare it... Or just don't read it at all lol! But you'd be missing out.
It has definitely created a turning point in my life to allow me to see that there is more to life than pleasing others and sacrificing my own time in order to feel a sense of satisfaction through obligation etc.
She categorises things so beautifully and it is very much an interactive book where you make notes of what you do give a f*ck about and things that you don't and work your way through them to re-prioritise your life.
This book was written in 1951 by John Wyndham. But don't let that put you off reading it. It's so well written and to read you wouldn't think that it was at all written in the 1950's.
My father in law actually recommended this to my husband who recommended it to me.
Super class thriller, you could actually see some of these events actually happening in an apocalyptic scenario in the sense of how people behave etc. John apparently did a lot of background research on this so I've heard in order to make the book feel real.
Really easy to read and enjoyable, kept me on the edge of my seat for sure. Not a heavy book at all and honestly just such a good read. I'd love to read it again in all honesty.
I am pretty confident in myself I have to say, so I suppose that the one positive thing I can say about my personal experience with this book is that I realised I am pretty confident when I read it.
I couldn't really relate to some of the exercises that Sarah asks the reader to do as to me they just felt like second nature for me personally.
That's not to say that it isn't a good book entirely. I just don't think now upon hind sight that this was the book for me. Definitely give it a read if you are interested in learning how to accept yourself and are quite doubtful of yourself as a person. want in life. It also made me aware of the amount of times I agree to stuff I don't want to do.
So there you have it, 2 of my favourite books that I loved so much and one that isn't my first pick.
I'm learning that no-one is perfect, and to admire traits of people instead of admiring everything to do with that person.
I admire so many different people for different reasons. So I guess I'm cheating as I'm gonna put forward my 2 favourites.
Fitness goals and a goal orientated woman I look up to is Gal Gadot. She is my *Wonder* Woman Crush Wednesday all day, every day of the week.
The woman is an amazing actress, insanely fit, has served in Israeli Army during her time on earth, and won Miss Israel when she was only 18. What's not to love about her.
She has goals in mind, keeps them at the forefront of her mind and then takes the most reasonable steps and pushes herself in order to get where she wants to go. She's very driven and that's what I love about her.
My morning routine varies depending on whether or not I'm working early or late.
I'll go through a typical morning routine of when I am working early first then what I do on my days off/working late. When I say it varies, I just mean it varies in which time I actually wake up at. If I have to be in work for 07:30 I get up at 06:15, if I don't have to be in work until 14:15 then I sleep a bit longer and wake up between 08:30 and 10:00
First things first, regardless of working early, late, or day off; I turn my alarm off, count to five then get out of bed.
The reason I do this is because I used to be a "10 alarms + the snooze button is my friend" kinda gal. But a couple of months ago I was feeling pretty crappy especially in the morning time. So I did some research on sleep and how to make yourself a morning person.
Most stuff I read and watched was a load of horse shite in my personal opinion. some Youtubers being all "hey guys this is how I get ready in the mornings" and it's like a 30 min video on a five hour morning routine that just isn't realistic. Some of these crazy mofo's get up literally at the crack arse of dawn just to start their day for no reason at all. They aren't going to a single place of work for 04:30! Eating their wheat grass smoothies and chugging down green tea, meditating for 60 mins and doing yoga for 2 more XD... I digress.
Anyways, I read a study on how hitting snooze actually reduces the quality of sleep that you have and therefore makes you more tired and less useful during the day. Here's a video that goes into it if you're interested in learning about it.
This completely changed my perspective on sleep. I used to always cherish those extra 10 mins in bed. But every morning I'd wake up feeling "extra sprinkle of shitty mood"
So I gave it a try, and although I'm still not exactly chipper as soon as I wake up, I'm a helluva lot better than I was.
So definitely look into it and give it a try if you're at your wits end of feeling pure shite like I was.
So now that I have woken up, I get myself out of bed and have go for a wee... (TMI? don't care XD)
Then I go and meditate for 20 mins. This is my "me" time before the chaos of the day unfolds. It allows me to be present with myself and deal with any niggling thoughts before I take on the baggage of this day that is about to occur.
I've found it really beneficial to my mood in how I start the day.
I gather all my uniform bits and put them on the radiator including a bra. definitely a game changer. I dunno about you but putting a freezing cold bra on first thing in the morning isn't my idea of a good time at all.
While that's cooking, I make myself a smoothie. I used to hate making smoothies before because I found using fresh fruit was just so temperamental sometimes... Frozen fruit is now my new bff. You're welcome!
So I drink that, I make a cuppa coffee and then I take a little supplement called L Theanine, it's a protein that is meant to help improve focus, reduce anxiety and improve sleep and studies have shown that it works best with caffeine, hence the coffee.
If I haven't properly woken up by this stage, I contemplate my life choices of choosing a job that requires me to get up so early and question as to whether or not I really need this job. Then I decide that I do indeed need it and also like my job (just not mornings). So I then convince myself to get dressed.
I'm quite lucky in that my uniform is just like wearing pajamas to work each day. Quite comfortable, lots of pockets. Only complaint is that it isn't exactly figure flattering (much to the dismay of most men around the world who seem to think that being a nurse is sexy. Sorry honey bun, but having a quicky with someone in a real nurses uniform, covered in all sorts of bodily fluid, is in probably... no... undoubtably extremely unhygienic.) Moving swiftly on.
I then put my hair up, I alternate between a braid, a bun, a high pony tail and a low ish pony tail with a bit of a bang thing going on at the front.
For my makeup, I generally don't like to wear make up to work, just a personal thing. I am do quite a bit of moving around and end up just wiping most of it off my face.
I do however like to have my mascara on (end of this month though, the false lashes are making a comeback!) and draw over my eyebrows with a pencil.
That's about it! I head out the door and make my way into work.
That is my exciting morning routine. No bullshit, just enough to get me awake and ready to face the day.
Im a day late as I was working late yesterday and didn't have time to write this. My zodiac sign is Taurus. ♉
I've never been totally into zodiac signs but sometimes just for the craic I'll sit and read what my forecast for the month is.
Being a red head and being a Taurus have one thing in common, it's associated with being a hot head/stubborn. I'm not entirely sure if I meet that criteria to the extent that it is stereotyped. Everyone can be stubborn at times about certain things and can be easily annoyed about different things that are personal to them. So I guess we are all a redheaded Taurus at heart haha!
Anyway, here's an overview of what my star sign typically entails personality wise and then I'll chat about what I agree with and what I don't.
I love the colour green, my car is green. I'm not like that wee old woman you see on the internet sometimes where she adores green to the point where all her furniture, clothes, belonging and even hair is green. But it's my favourite colour.
I'm a pretty practical person. I love it when a plan comes together and I try to think of the easiest way to do things where possible.
I'm like anyone else in that on a good day I feel pretty good and that my shit is well and truly together. But on a bad day I'll feel overwhelmed with how little my shit is indeed together.
I most definitely like to work with my hands so I agree with that most definitely. I'd be in the wrong job as a nurse if I didn't enjoy being hands on. Haha! I don't understand how you can be practical and not want to work with your hands to a certain degree. But I'm open to understanding different perspectives so feel free to correct me.
I like watering plants, that's as far as my green fingers will take me. My husband is a bit more of a garden geek than me if I'm honest.
I can be stubborn with certain things. I would say my weakness however isn't that I'm uncompromising but rather than I tend to compromise too much. I'm working on it though.
I absolutely detest feeling insecure and sudden changes. People tell me I'm way too young to not like change. From a very young age I've been told I'm such a wee granny mush lol! But yeah I don't like sudden changes in plans and with that feeling unsure as to is happening.
So I guess there are some similarities between my sign and myself personally. But in all honesty I feel like so many of these horoscopes are written in a terribly vague manner that could apply to so many people so I tend to not put too much weight on what is said.
I do however quite like Meyers Briggs Personality categories.
My personality is ESFJ which each letter stands for/associated with:
Extroverted (most definitely)
Sensing (how I perceive or take on information)
Feeling (How I prefer to make decisions)
Judgment (How I orient myself to the external world. i.e. being quite traditional)
I feel like I am quite well represented in this. Although it is old psychology. I agree with the way that it is described.
Jordan B Peterson also has a method of analysing your personality, I did it and I can't remember my results so I'll have to look into that one again sometime.
So that is my insight into my personality. Ta-Da
A friend of mine Kathryn from @the_mother_hen_ has set a challenge of a blog a day for those who do blogs or some variant of it to overcome writers block.
I'm not terribly religious when it comes to this blog, never have been. But it's always something I enjoy doing. So what the hell, I'm doing this for shits and giggles.
âFirst day of the challenge is to talk about 10 interesting facts about myself.
I already hate this challenge... JK Kathryn. Lol!
I'm not good at thinking of interesting facts about myself because I'm a pretty open book and feel like the most interesting things about me, most people probably already know. Unless I really don't like you and keep my cards to my chest lmao!
10) I really like pole dance
It's no secret really, I have pole related posts on this blog, and on my Instagram page lol!
I've been doing pole for nearly 3 years. I absolutely love it. Some see it as a slutty thing, IDGAS personally. People can think what they want. I do it because I enjoy it, it makes me fitter, it's sexy (When you get it) and you feel like you've achieved something when you've worked hard on a move and you finally get it. Absolutely exhilarating! :) It's also been such a safety net for my mental health. Nothing promotes a happier mind than going to a studio where you get to have a good laugh at your own expense and at others, cheering each other on and being encouraged by others!
9) I love yoga and stretching
I've always wanted to be able to do the splits, since I was a little girl. I went to gymnastics from the age of 6-7 then gave it up as I came home every night exhausted as a wee kiddie, then struggled to get up in the morning for school (more so than usual). Throughout my late teens and early twenties I'd set new years resolutions in order to be able to do 2 things 1) handstands (working on my forearms stands instead, they're going great by the way) 2) splits. These two I never was consistent at keeping up with. Consistency is a big contributing factor as to whether or not you see results or not (#lifetip) I had dabbled in practicing my splits from 2015-2017 but nothing ever that serious. Until 2018. I decided enough was enough and I was going to have a bit more of a goal with my yoga practice and stretching physically. (I know yoga is more than just stretching, I like to keep my mental yoga practice private for the most part)
So here we are a year and a bit later and I have about an inch to go before touch down.
As for my forearm stand, I've pretty much got it but have had to let it go to the wayside for the time being for some health reasons.
8) I meditate for 20 mins every day
Gonna sound like a hippy dippy prick here, but whatever lol.
The first couple of months Kyle and I were married we meditated every day and it really helped with adjusting to a new life in a different country, new area etc. Then I started a new job and it took a back seat (probably at the time where I needed to meditate the most.) We took it up again a month ago, and I'm honestly loving it. There were times at the start where it was difficult to get it done but I always felt better afterward for it, and that's what kept me going.
It helps I find first thing in the morning before I even look at my phone, I can't explain and don't really like to explain what it does for me. But it's pretty good.
â7) I'm vegan... Don't you know XD
Everyone hates vegans lmao I know already XD
I don't eat anything that comes out of an animal or is an animal. I don't like to preach it from the roof tops. If someone brings it up and is genuinely curious about it then I'm happy to chat about it. But if someone seems a bit judgy about it then I'll just keep it short and sweet and it generally goes something like this:
Person: I hear you're a vegan... why? *generally it's more apparent in the person's tone of voice
Me: I like eating plants <changes the topic>
Sometimes if it seems like the person is curious but kinda wants to debate it. I just say
Me: I couldn't kill an animal so I don't want to ask someone else to kill it for me. Simple.
...And leave it at that.
I might get hate from other vegans about this, in that I'm not evangelical about it. I was passionate and excited about it at the start. But I never enjoyed getting into debates about it in the first place. Not my job to change someones mind and I can't physically change their mind so it's up to them really at the end of the day.
6) I'm a Nurse
I've been qualified for nearly 5 years (I still can't believe it's been that long, feels like no time from I left uni)
I've worked in a lot of different settings in those 5 years. Mostly Emergency Departments, a bit of surgical experience thrown in there too along with some cancer care.
Now I'm about to undergo training to become a Nurse Practitioner and I'm dead excited.
Lots of learning and a bit learning curve. But I'm excited about taking the next step in furthering myself :)
5) I've been married for a year and a half (nearly) and walked up the aisle to "Cinema - Benny Benassi... The piano version XD
True story ;) My husband Kyle and I are married for nearly a year and a half, we've been together 10 years and have known each other for 11. We are both from N. Ireland but now live in England
4) I have an unhealthy obsession with Cadbury's Bourneville chocolate
It was a huge problem a few years ago where I was eating 6 a day, I kid you not.
It was bad, my colleagues started noticing that I'd have one on every break (during a 13 hour shift we had 3 breaks) so I started buying an extra chocolate bar at each break so I could enjoy it without people watching me.
I cut down to 1 a day, then 1 a week and lost nearly 2 stone (with the help of healthier eating, working out and pole)
Then I started eating one a day again. Now I am doing much better in that I didn't have one for a whole 2 weeks.
I'm not craving it as often now which is great. But I am known to have a really bad sweet tooth. So I make a smoothie in the morning instead and honestly it helps a lot.
3) I have an addiction to eye lash extensions
I. ADORE. EYELASH. EXTENSIONS. They can look so good when they're done right.
When we moved to the area we now live in I had to give up on my regular lash extensions as we had to save money since I knew I'd be out of work for a little while until I got a job and eventually got started (it takes a surprising amount of time to actually get started a job in nursing, the amount of HR paperwork is astounding)
Now I'm in a stable job I'm finally getting my lashes back at the end of this month and I'm seriously excited to feel glam again and not have to worry about making my face presentable when I walk out the door. It has saved me so much time in the mornings. Who can say no to an extra 5 mins in bed in the morning??
4) I sleep walk... really badly
26 years old and I talk in tongues in my sleep, have conversations with people who aren't there, and literally jump out of bed when I think there is something in the bed that shouldn't be there. My parents always thought I'd grow out of it, but much to the despair of my husband. Alas, I have not.
We have a few ideas of what triggers it, 1) overheating (I do love my layers) 2) stress 3) indigestion (random but true)
The worst cases were when I was a kid, I'd walk down the hall and draw on the condensation of the windows (according to my dad) (... not spooky at all)
When my husband and I were dating, me and his family went over to visit him in America when he was studying, I shared a bedroom with my now sister in law (poor Jodie has been the subject of my many episodes as we shared a room a lot as teenagers on holidays) woke up to me touching her face asking her if she needed help getting cling film off her face. I have no recollection of this whatsoever. Apparently I also did a couple of laps of the living room, again no recollection.
I'd love to see a sleep specialist about it as I am more curious than anything lol! Sometimes I wake myself mid sentence. When I lived with my Gran for a couple of months 2 years ago I had a dream my old Belfast neighbour vomited on my bed and so even in my sleep I went into nurse mode. I cracked all the windows open and woke up the other side of the room with the lights on full whack... lmao that was kinda funny. I'm just glad I woke up and had the sense to shut the windows again. I've on numerous occasions tried to help imaginary dream characters through their "seizures" woken myself up by touching the cold floor thinking there was a person there. Oh I have many wonderful and hilarious tales of my antics when I am sleeping.
3) I love a good karaoke
At my sister in law's wedding, I got rather drunk and sang Shania Twain - Man I feel like a woman. Needless to say I did not feel like a woman the next morning. As many fellow wedding guests loved to remind me. I still can't live it down. It was funny I have to say.
Honestly, if you ask nicely I "might" share the video with you. The only reason I haven't shared it here is because I can't download it from facebook XD
2) I really struggle to walk in heals
flats all the way! Unless they have got a really good ankle support then I'm crap. I went to pole heals flow classes before and the amount of times I buckled because I can't hold my own body weight in 6 inch heals was unbelievable.
1) I much prefer online shopping to actually going into a busy store.
dont get me wrong if the store is empty then I'll gladly chose it over online shopping. But for now I'd much rather be comfortable and not sweaty when picking outfits or stuff I want
There are a lot of tips and tricks out there on the internet when it comes to budgeting and saving money.
I'm going to share some of my best ones that I have picked up over the years. I'm pretty sure I've done blog posts on this topic before but it's always good to update and recap.
Here is some cheap ideas you can do if you are a little bit broke or more and still feel the need to treat yo self.
1) Home made beauty products
If you are in a pinch and you need to get some new beauty products but you don't really have the cash to burn for it.
Then look into some DIY beauty products.
For me, I like to keep it simple. I forgot that green tea has a lot of beauty and health benefits. So drinking more of that is beneficial for your insides, and if it is good for your insides then your outside will show it too. Not only this, but let some extra green tea cool down and put it in a spray bottle. This will act as a nice eye spray if you get itchy eyes like me.
If you want your hair to grow or give it a good deep condition but can't afford to buy a mask, use coconut oil or olive oil if you have some in the house.
Other stuff I discovered recently was that flax seed is meant to be amazing for healthy hair and improving growth of hair.
If you want to vamp up your living space or bedroom, youtube videos on budget DIY are always inspiring and helpful. Raid through your recycling bin and see if anything can be salvaged. Don't throw too much stuff away like jewellery boxes etc, you might be able to upcycle them.
3) Discount websites are your best friend
So if it's coming up to Christmas or you have a month with a lot of birthdays in it. The likes of Wowcher and Groupon are great for getting ideas on gifts for people and at an affordable price.
If you want to shop online for products, open a new window tab and type in the place you are shopping and include the words " discount code <insert year here>" and this might help you to get some good deals going.
Some really good clothing websites that are affordable if your wardrobe needs a spruce up are listed below. Just bare in mind that you might be best looking at the websites sizing chart as I find different shops use different sizing methods. (ridiculous but whatever)
Now onto the saving part.
What is it you want to save for?
First things first, fold page in half like a hot dog.
On one side write down your short term goals and the other side write down your long term goals.
2) Research your Goals thoroughly
Then take each item and give it it's own page. Write that goal in the middle of the page and brain storm all other costs that are involved with your goal.
For instance, if you want to save for a car, you will need to write down that petrol will be needed to keep the car going, tax, insurance. You can use comparison websites to gauge an idea of what these costs might look like.
3) Income and Outgoings
Now work out how much money you spend each month, look at your bank statements.
Write them all down, look at each area individually. You might be spending £40 a week on snacks, you could evaluate where you shop and if there is anywhere you can buy them cheaper.
For instance I found that buying snacks in my job was working out to be cheaper than bulk buying them in a local shop.
Highlight all the bills you CANNOT NOT PAY... This includes but isn't limited to, electric bills, rent, mortgage, food, car payments, insurance, gas, phone payments oil etc.
Research if you are getting the best deal out of all your mandatory bills.
E.g. I personally found paying for a phone outright and buying a good model but not a high end brand such as iPhone or Samsung etc can work out so much cheaper. Buying a sim only deal with cheaper brands such as ID or GiffGaff can save you so much money.
I was paying £40 a month for a phone AND sim and that was WITH NHS discount!!
I'm now paying £16.50 a month for my sim and I've already paid for my phone.
Bigger bills such as electric etc you can use the likes of moneysupermarket.com or uswitch to find out if you are paying the best deal for your bills.
4) Tally up your numbers
Work out how much you can save if you buy different products how much money you will or ideally will have at the end of the month. Then work out how much you can put aside each month.
Ideally it's better to put more aside than you spend. That way it forces your to be mindful of what you need to spend your left over money on.
However depending on your financial abilities, it's good to start small and work your way up.
5) Find cheap things to do
There is nothing worse than not being able to do anything because you're broke
Something I discovered recently is that Groupon has outings and getaway break discounts! Keep your eye on that. Cheap ideas for things to do when you are bored.
But also make a list of things you can do that are free.
This could be a home workout instead of a gym membership, going for a walk, crafting stuff with recycled items, tidying and cleaning, Pinterest can be very helpful for getting inspiration for things to do that are free. Tailor it to your interests and what you have currently.
These are some tips that I have found to be very helpful to me in order to try and save for different things.
I managed to save enough money to take 6 weeks off work, buy a photoshoot for my new baby nephew, birthday and anniversary gifts.
The key is to be realistic. If you need any more advice the Money Advice Service is great for tips and budgeting tools that you will find beneficial.
I know I harp on about how amazing pole is. But it is my hobby. It keeps me sane. It's something I enjoy and I have made friends from doing it. That said. I want to express how amazing it is to have a hobby. To have something that you enjoy doing for you. For all the good selfish reasons. For instance, the social aspect of a hobby. Meeting like minded people, Destressing, Therapy. I have found that in nursing it can be hard to make friends at times. Because you don't know who you can trust, who will report you and who may have to put you in your place a bit, even if you do get on well together. It's great to have friends in work that you can be comrades with. But it's so important to have friends outside of work encase it doesn't work out the way you had planned. I've found from doing pole for the last two years that this has especially been the case. I've loved meeting people from different backgrounds that have different careers and chatting to them about their lives, finding out what makes them tick and discussing different things as well as the banter. The last few months I wouldn't have gotten through if it wasn't for my pole friends. A lot of people pursue a career that they are passionate about; which is great. But like me a lot of people the passion can sometimes become fatigued or take a different priority level in life. So it's always a good call to have e something else that you do that you love purely for fun, destressing and enjoyment So this is a really quick blog post to say that you should pursue a hobby outside of your work. It's something to work towards, a good stress outlet and a great way to meet like minded people.
I am a 25 year old nurse, who is trying to find herself. This blog will contain epiphanies I have, my yoga progress and other such things. Enjoy. :)