This is a beautifully heartbreaking and eye and soul opening video of how such a traumatic situation that words can't describe can bring about a change of spirit and development of spiritual growth.
I stole this from a friend's Facebook page. Really challenged me and how I am with forgiveness. I must learn from this. We all must.
Alright, so on the left here is a reflective model that we used in our old curriculum of nursing which promotes us to reflect on our practice and continuously assess our rationale for carrying out procedures and how we went about it. But I feel that it is a good model to apply to day to day life too.
I have been studying a lot the past couple of weeks... Actually the past year as I've been drowning in assignments, presentations and exams, particularly January and February, I just had my final exam today so nursing information is floating around my head at the minute so venting it out here to get it out of my system, bare with me please.
Anyway back to the refelctive model. My last posts have been about attitudes and how I need to change, I (in particular the last week) have been trying to think carefully about "Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true? Does it improve on the silence?" - Sai Baba and applying it to general conversations. I can easily go on a rant about how someone has annoyed me, it is generally over something that hits close to home or if I a hunch about someone's attitude towards me etc. But I sometimes don't know when to stop.
I went to a friends house yesterday with a group of us to cram some last minute studying in together and a bit of craic before our exam today. We somehow ended up talking about religion and how a lot of people really let themselves down in that there are a number of religious folk who forget that we are all sinners and all slip up regardless of our faith and so it is important for us not judge or act "high and mighty". In this way I realised particularly last night that I am an inverted judge, I am quick to say what annoys me about how some people are so snooty and judgmental but in turn I'm judging them. I believe in tactfulness and a lot of the time I am not tactful, nor do I even think about "Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true? Does it improve on the silence?" I'm still learning, but I am getting there. Slowly starting to think about these things before I speak. Although it is going to take some work.
I am one of the first ones to admit that I am no angel, I am not perfect. I am also one of those people with a personality like Marmite, you either love me or hate me. Yes the way I carry on with my friends I can be quite loud and sometimes a bit obnoxious. But my intentions are good, I never want to hurt anyone and never on purpose try to make anyone feel uncomfortable.
Although I realised tonight from watching a program called "My Mad Fat Diary" that words can hurt so much and the importance of being tactful if you are going to be truthful, if you are going to talk about someone, be sure to not seem so keen to blurt the words out, only have an input if you are invited to speak and be sure to chose words carefully and chose words that you would honestly say to the person in question if they were sitting right next to you there and then.
I'm going to keep trying to remember to ask myself "Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true? Does it improve on the silence?"
So this is me reflecting on my attitude problem, identifying the problem and am willing to change this behaviour to bring about a positive change through continuous assessment and re-evaluation. Trying to better myself ;)
UPDATE: Sorry I tried to upload the video but it didn't work so here is a link. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw
This video really is so applicable to everyone. I feel that we ALL can learn from this with myself being included in that bracket!
I know quite a few people who are good at sympathy and not enough empathy being displayed through their actions or words. We all have some degree of sympathy, and I feel that those who are uncomfortable saying nothing in awkward situations are most likely to use sympathy as opposed to empathy.
We need to spend more time listening to one another, less time trying to fill "the awkward silences" and appreciating them more. Especially when someone is trying to tell us something difficult or share something with us that hurts them etc.
Take this on board.
I am a 25 year old nurse, who is trying to find herself. This blog will contain epiphanies I have, my yoga progress and other such things. Enjoy. :)