I'm really bad at thinking of titles for blogs so you'll have to excuse haha!
Anyway, I've realised something this week. Most things in my life I am really happy with. I'm enjoying being married, I'm enjoying my relationship with my friends in NI. I'm making new friends here in England. I'm going to pole classes still and loving it.
I've kinda gotten out of the way of regularly meditating and yoga practice but am getting back into it slowly.
Sometimes it just takes one thing in your life to "knock you for six" if you will.
And sometimes, despite everything else in your life that is going so well, it's that one thing in your life that makes you feel like the whole world is falling apart around you. It makes you focus on the not so nice things in your life.
I'm having that kind of situation at the moment.
The thing is, I've always heard people say that life will always have it's up's and downs. That there will be good times and then there will be bad times and then back up to good times again etc.
I've come to realise (and maybe I'm late to this particular party with this epiphany) that there are good times amid the bad, and bad times amid the good.
There will be good times going on whilst you're in the slums and bad times when you are having the time of your life.
Maybe written down that doesn't make any sense.
What I mean is that there will always be good times and bad times but they are not necessarily separate events. They will exist and coincide with one another.
Someone in your family may have just passed away. You might find that when you're spending time with family at the wake (depending on culturally and geographically you are you may or may not have "wakes" as such but people generally spend time with family when someone has passed away) that you haven't seen in a while that you've reconnected with them and created a new bond with some people and create some new good memories.
You may have passed your degree and graduated and you and you're family are over the moon about it but you may find that you are struggling with debt in some way and this may or may not bother you.
These are some examples anyway.
I sometimes feel with things like this that I am struck with inspiration that "of course! It all makes sense! There is no such things as ups and downs there is only good times and bad times living alongside one another". Then I am hit with the feeling of "I bet this is common sense and that everyone got the memo except for me!" haha!
Everyone has different life experiences; Contributing factors would be how you were brought up and raised, your personality type, the type of job that you have, the type of school that you went to, what area you grew up in as a child.
Everyone will learn similar life lessons but in different ways. So although I may be feeling like lately most of my life lessons I have written about on this blog sound cliché it will have a personal meaning to me. There maybe someone out there that hasn't come across this life lesson yet. There maybe someone reading this that thinks "I learned this years ago!"
So amid this life lesson, I am also learning that I should be a bit more gentle on myself. :)
Something that struck me this week was about being apologetically me.
What I'm about to say is going to sound so cliché. And I have been told this from a young age. But I guess this cliché really resonated with me this week, the penny finally dropped and I wanted to share it here.
Just be yourself and don't appologise to anyone for being you. You don't owe any one an explanation for yourself and how you are.
Even if people think you are supposed to be a certain way or live up to a certain expectation of people or they want to put your personality into a certain box. You don't have to be the reputation that others think you are living up to. You are you. No more, no less. You don't have to react the exact same way to different situations. You react the way you tell you to react.
Whether that's at work, home life, social events or whatever.
You do you, hun
I am a 25 year old nurse, who is trying to find herself. This blog will contain epiphanies I have, my yoga progress and other such things. Enjoy. :)