Throughout our life we produce energy. We say and do things, and every thought,every word, and every act carries our signature. What we produce as thoughts, as speech, as actions, continues to influence the world, and that is our continuation body. Our actions carry us into the future. We are like stars whose light energy continues to radiate across the cosmos millions of years after they
I've been so busy the month of July.
I've had to prepare for my revalidation due end of August. Since I was going to spend a few weeks of August with Kyle planning the wedding. I figured I'd best get this revalidation done and dusted so I don't have to worry about it at the last minute.
I've been working full time and extra to keep up with bills and paying for stuff.
I've met up with old friends regularly.
I've been getting wedding gifts for people.
I've been staying with my Gran to keep her company at night time and generally try and keep her spirits up.
I've been moving house. I'm eventually going to move in with my Gran for the last couple of months leading up to the wedding.
Answering families queries about our wedding even though I haven't a bloody clue myself and all the stress that that brings.
Decluttering my belongings so as I have less shit to bring with me when I move after we get married.
I've been going to pole regularly to keep up my skills, sanity and just have some fun in my busy life.
I've just allowed myself to get swamped under. At the same time I don't see what I could have done about it to be fair.
I couldn't have juggled it any better.
It was a lot of cramming to do.
Maybe I could have done more agency shots so as I would have gotten paid more. Who knows.
As a result. I ended up with the cold.
It has completely floored me.
I'm exhausted, weak, dizzy, I have the cough of an 80 a day smoker.
I don't look unwell. Which is a bonus. And I don't have that cloudy head feeling with the cold.
The first few days of being here in England has been interesting. I've relaxed to the point I've now for the cold. But felt weird not to be doing so much. I went front such a being soooo busy to sooooo not busy and it takes a few days to adjust.
After being here a few days I now feel ok with just doing nothing.
Sometimes it's best to listen to your body and take queues from it.
I've been engaged for 7 months now.
It has been a roller coaster let me tell you.
Something I've learned from this experience is that people know how stressful organising a wedding can be. How financially it can be "taxing" (excuse the pun). It is impossible to please everyone. It's hard to coordinate one day and all the aspects of it, work your ass off in order to afford it and try and have chill time by yourself and your loved one.
But by the time everything is all said and done. The wedding is over and everyone only ever talks about how lovely the day was. That's something I learned from a colleague of mine in work.
Everyone even in their own weddings. Look back on the day as a beautiful event and how "wonderful" the planning was. Instantly forgetting how difficult it was.
Then when someone in the family gets engaged the cycle continues again.
So here are some things I've learned along the way:
1. THE FUNDAMENTAL REASON YOUR HAVING A WEDDING
You and your other half are celebrating your love and the stage of your relationship going forward. The commitment to one another you're going to make. Whatever your reason. It all falls into the same category. The reason is the both of you.
Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
People should feel a sense of privilege and honour that they've been invited. Not entitled.
Don't let people tell you how to run you're day if it isn't welcome.
Obviously slightly different story if your parents are paying for it. But let it be encouraged that the day is about you and your other half not the parents.
Make sure you both are on the same page about how much to spend.
Don't go overboard on paying for things that aren't that important.
Don't underspend on things are that important to you both.
3. DON'T TELL TOO MANY PEOPLE ABOUT YOUR BARGAINS
Not everyone will be on the same page as you about your bargains.
After the wedding they will think you're the bargain queen but in the middle of the organising people will tell you that you should be spending more on different things.
A wedding is what you make it. You can have it as expensive as you want to. Who cares really? Everyone is there to have a good time and enjoy themselves, the food and the drink. That's it.
It's the memories you make that will stick out in people's minds more than the colour of the napkins etc.
Make the day your own.
That's what's important.
4. WHERE TO SAVE MONEY
- Groupon deals - this will be a lifesaver. Thank me later.
- Ask friends for advice on who did their hair and makeup
- High street store dresses for bridesmaids (check out when they have sales too this can be a game changer)
- Buy your own dress on a reputable online high street store website.
- Shop around for alteration seamstress
- Get wedding insurance. It's not too expensive and will cover you for different thing that can go wrong.
- Get hand me downs from friends that have gotten married before
- Buy foam flowers - they look gorgeous and no one will know any different
- Buy shoes from the high street
- Buy your wine and pay for corkage. Normally works out cheaper than the venues offers.
Everyone secretly loves getting a bargain. But we for some reason hate talking about it when it comes to splashing out for a wedding.
I ask the question, why does it matter if you saved a few bob on your wedding dress cause you got it in a sample sale? Why does it matter if you scored yourself a deal on the mens suits? What does it matter if your flowers aren't real but look absolutely stunning and unique?
At the end of the day, this wedding is about you and your significant other. It shouldn't matter if you got an amazing bargain on different aspects of your wedding.
In fact if anything it is probably more sensible to get a good deal on things and save money where you can. Because at the end of the wedding day you are living with this person in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer. It is one day of your life. Yes it should be special, but special doesn't necessarily mean spend all of your life savings and then some; on one day of your life. When you could be using that money to do things as a couple that you've always wanted to do. Buy a house, travel the world, maybe start a family (Cause goodness knows you need money for an ever growing child)
Thus leading me nicely on to my next point.
Here are some things I have pinned on my pintrest board titled "Ideas for Someday" on how you could save money on your big day.
I hope these are helpful to you if any of you are planning a wedding and are struggling to keep things within a budget with pressure mounting from everywhere and everyone that you have to spend more than a certain amount on your wedding.
Simple DIY creations for your wedding that are cheap as chips
Face Mask to reduce the redness of pimples that might appear on your face leading up to the big day (you're so welcome)
Advice on fitness and weight loss leading up to the big day (you don't necessarily need an expensive gym membership to lose weight!)
Affordable place card holders
If you're doing corkage fee wine (works out cheaper a lot of the time! Look into it)
Here's a blog post on how to determine how much alcohol you will need at your wedding
"For richer, for poorer" favours, buy yourself a lot of chocolate coins from sainsburrys or whatever shop you shop at. (Yes there are easily accessible vegan chocolate coins also)
A detailed blog post on saving money when paying for your wedding
Save money on your flowers!
Or look into getting foam flowers
If you aren't in the UK, you can look into this in your native country. It should be easily accessible to get foam flowers for your wedding. They look stunning and no-one would ever notice that they aren't real! Plus it saves you the stress of making sure they survive the night before the wedding.
Thank me later haha!
I've realised something today. I absolutely adore pole dancing. That's nothing new for me. I have always been intrigued by it! But what I have allowed myself to think up until this exact moment is that to be passionate about something you have to be amazing at it. Not true at all. Everyone starts off as a beginner. Some people have more of a talent for things than others. Doesn't make you any less passionate about it. Using pole dancing as an example. My best friend Grace, naturally has tonnes of upper body strength. She flies through each level in pole dancing and is so graceful at it. Me however, it takes me a while longer to get each move sometimes. But I get there in the end. Doesn't mean that I am less passionate about it because my friend has more strength than I do. What makes you passionate about something is the fact that you persist. You are excited to keep going. You see where you need to work on, sometimes it gets you down but you are still excited to see your progress as the weeks go by. There might be times that you want to give up but you don't because it still excites you and you're still really into that particular hobby/thing/career etc. I loveeeee looking at pole dancers on Instagram and YouTube. Sometimes I watch them for hours. Sometimes I go days without watching them. But I love it so much! It makes me excited to get to that level. It makes me want to try harder. To get to a better stage. I realised this when I was watching Instagram videos of other polerinas this morning. They are so amazing, bendy and flexible. Sometimes I have the occasional thought. "I might never get to that level" and it makes me a bit sad. Because I see her/his progress and level as passion. That I'm obviously not as passionate because I'm not at that level yet. But here's the thing... His/Her progress, his/her ability, it is a result of his/her passion That is what I find so exciting!!
I am a 25 year old nurse, who is trying to find herself. This blog will contain epiphanies I have, my yoga progress and other such things. Enjoy. :)