I saw a person I follow on Instagram update her instastories. She seems to be in a slump at the moment. Feeling really down and like she hasn't got her shit together.
I completely appreciate her honesty and bravery to allow herself to expose her vulnerabilities for all to see. Which leads me very neatly on to my next point. I think it is build within us as a species, not only as a species but as a collective group of existing beings, not to expose your vulnerabilities. Because it means you can be seen as a weaker target by predators. Even if we go into the wild. Animals will very rarely display their vulnerabilities, they will try to hide them in order for them not to be eaten/fall behind from the pack etc. We humans probably did it in caveman era. And we still do it today. But in a completely different context. We don't show when we are struggling. We keep it all within ourselves or with a select few whom we trust. And there is nothing wrong with that at all. What I do see as problematic is the mindset that "let's pretend on social media that we have our shit together" that then creates a culture and domino effect of people pretending that they have perfect lives. That they have their shit together and are on top of their game. Absolutely wonderful by the way if you are on top of your game at whatever stage of life you are at. And it's wonderful that you wish to share it with others. That isn't what this is about, however. Noone has their life organised, exciting and are driven people 100% of the time. We go through waves of it. Even when we are on top of our game. There will be other things that are either in our control or outside of it that we find irritating, upsetting or frustrating. It's always consoling to know that others don't have their shit together either. Which begs the question, why are we pretending to have our lives together? Who are we really trying to kid? Our exes? Old friends? Old crushes? Old class mates? Dont get me wrong I'm not expecting anyone and everyone to put their list of vulnerabilities on their Facebook profile "about me section" or anything. But at the same time, be honest with yourself. Don't post bullshit about how happy you are or how amazing life is if you aren't in that place right now. No one is gonna really be that upset with you if you don't bother posting about how great your life is at the moment, especially when you don't truly mean it. Take a break from social media if you feel down. Be honest with yourself. And sometimes it is refreshing to see others who post about how they are struggling with the various aspects of life. If you feel that is what you'd like to do and you'd find it therapeutic then do it. If you'd rather not. Then process any grief of difficulties you're having differently, either a healthy internal processing of emotions or chat with a close friend.
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AuthorI am a 25 year old nurse, who is trying to find herself. This blog will contain epiphanies I have, my yoga progress and other such things. Enjoy. :) Archives
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