I honestly believe that relationships start having problems, when other people get involved.
"You're 24. Why aren't you married yet?" Don't you just love how people always target the woman when asking this question? Very rarely will someone ask the guy. Then again maybe it's because the guy generally adopts a "I don't care what you think this is none of your business" kinda attitude Here's the thing. To get married you need money. "Oh you don't need money. Just so long as you're in love" Mate, who are you trying to kid? Not to mention the additional cost of a house. Be it renting or buying it is hard to afford both this day and age. Houses are bloody expensive. You can't just walk into a house these days. Prices have sky rocketed since the credit crunch. And it doesn't make it easy for people like me to be able to afford a wedding and a house. It's either one or the other. Let say my boyfriend was to propose to me today. We would have to save for either a wedding or a house. We couldn't afford both. The sad thing is that a lot of people are in the same situation. Where they can only afford one or the other. The average wedding (and I mean the average wedding) can cost approximately £22,000. Realistically speaking; Neither him or I have that kind of money. And we aren't exactly big spenders. "Oh but that's what you save up for." Ok. So let say if we save up. That means more waiting, and I'm not talking months. I'm talking years. Which means more people rolling their eyes and talking in hushed tones "He doesn't intend on marrying her. Poor girl. They're never getting married and she hasn't a clue" Silently judging. False sympathy. And let's not get into the discussion on the fact that this is now 2016 and women are not defined by their marital status anymore; So catch up. All aboard the time travel train cause we're going back to the future. "What year, Doc?" "The year 2016, Mardy!" But I digress... You're damned if I do, you're damned if I don't. If I get married with no house. People will talk. If I move in and don't get married but save up for it. People will talk. I personally am happy in my relationship with my boyfriend. We are very happy. But only because I let what people say and their opinions get to me. That's the point. The minute you start letting. What people say in to your relationships. Is when things go tits up. Lesson for you all today. People should mind their own business. A relationship is between two people and the only reasons that someone should intervene is because it's an emotional or physically abusive relationship. Otherwise. Butt out.
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AuthorI am a 25 year old nurse, who is trying to find herself. This blog will contain epiphanies I have, my yoga progress and other such things. Enjoy. :) Archives
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