A lot of people I know have varying opinions on New Year Resolutions. I have a "sit on the fence" approach with it. (As with most things, because nothing is ever black or white in life) Some people are all #NewYearNewMe which personally I find laughable, unless you truly mean it then sure, go on ahead. You do you, hun ;) Some people see that they wish to change their life and turn it around. Some maybe dramatically, some maybe take a more subtle approach. Some people aim to lose weight for the summer, because they want to look good in a bikini, or swim shorts or whatever. Some want to eat healthier because of the Christmas binge season, and just want to lose weight quickly. In this group of people, they tend to lose momentum due to lack of self discipline. They like the idea of change, they like the idea of being a better version of themselves. But they don't make realistic goals to make that change. Or they just like the idea of the change as opposed to putting in the required effort to see it through. A lot of people have been posting their views on Instagram and blogs about what they think about resolutions, and I find it interesting to read what others have to say about different opinions. Because life tip: It's good to listen to what others have to say, it can open your mind and horizons ;) Anyway, there seems to be a similar thought amongst a lot of people that "you are just fine the way you are. You don't need to change." I agree with the first part. You are just fine the way you are. Because I believe that you can lose all the weight in the world because you hate the way you look, but what happens when you get to your goal and you don't look like Naomi Campbell or Kate Moss. Sometimes you can still not be happy with how you look even if you have reached your goal. There isn't that self love there. I feel like the most effective way of "bettering" yourself using this example, is acknowledging who you are, loving yourself the way you are at the moment. With this self love, wanting to be a healthier version of yourself and making a decision to lose weight with goal in mind. Loving yourself throughout the journey and still loving yourself at the end of the journey. The love is there throughout the process. You WON'T love yourself more by becoming as skinny as <insert models name here>. Even if you did, you won't be satisfied, and will find something else to desire. They key is that loving and accepting yourself NOW, will allow you to see that there is only peace now. There isn't peace down the road, "if I do this, if I do that I will be happy" nothing will ever make you happy. It has to be from within. The advice on losing weight isn't aimed at people with eating disorders, because this is a very complicated mindset and mental health issue to overcome. I can appreciate how difficult a mindset it is to deal with on a daily basis. I'm talking about (using myself as an example here) normally being around 9 and a 1/2 stone mark (Which is healthy for my height) and putting on 2 stone in the space of 1 year because of your addiction to Bourneville chocolate (6 a day!!) and having two breakfasts every morning like a hobbit. That's my personal example. I wasn't eating healthily, I wasn't exercising enough. It was all pure comfort eating due to stress. So bare that in mind when reading this. The second thing I wanted to say about the sentence "you are just fine the way you are, you don't need to change" From a day to day perspective and an evolutionary point of view; Sometimes change is necessary. Whether we like it or not we all aim to better ourselves. Whether that is striving to become a solicitor some day. Pushing yourself to get ripped at the gym when you've been diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes and wanting to change your health status. Making a change to leave an abusive relationship with someone or something. I could go on. This will all require a certain degree of effort more so than what you are currently exude. However it's important to love yourself where you're at. Even if you can't love yourself right now, accept that's where you're at for now. Think about how much you have changed in the last 6 months, a year, even years. Change happens due to circumstances. Change is necessary for growth. That said, I can understand the mindset of people who think that you are just fine the way you are. Because most people today are not accepting of themselves, and don't have any self love for themselves. So I can completely understand how this might be important for people to hear. It's never a cut and dry thing wanting to change.
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